What it says on the tin. :) Because the refs, at least, might find such a list amusing/useful. Be aware that there might be sarcasm involved....
- The refs read all the downtimes and write the plot. You don't. If one of you isn't holding all the relevant information about this situation, it's probably not them.
- There might have been other players involved in the situation (too), which is why it turned out like that. In fact, let's just assume there were in all cases of what would otherwise be a really bizarre downtime ref call being made.
- You created your character. In the final analysis, you are responsible for their traits, foibles and interest groups. If you find the consequences of these annoying ('I get no plot tailored to my very specific interest! No-one will work with me IC so I feel disadvantaged in a metagame sense!), consider that the causes of this may not entirely lie with the refs.
- If you write such a complicated downtime that it takes several refs to do the reply justice, it will be slower to answer than one that just needs 'Noted'. Even though the reply is more eagerly awaited!
- Refs have lives, work, and other commitments besides this game. Some of them may be more important. Reffing is hard work, friend citizen, and they do their best. :)
- LARP characters are explicitly allowed to lie and to be misinformed. If an NPC says something that turns out to be Incorrect, this is not automatically because a ref is careless, forgetful or ill-informed about the correct answer.
- If players do something wrong (such as misapplying the rules, or confusing ic and oc) and the situation is not stopped IN THAT INSTANT, then either a mistake will have to persist or there will need to be a retcon. Both persistant mistakes and retcons really annoy people: therefore someone will almost inevitably get annoyed, no matter which is chosen. The best the refs can actually do in this situation is make the fairest call between the possible options.
- Despite all this, the refs still cock up from time to time, and when this happens it's best that someone mentions it. Specifically, it's best that someone mentions it politely and privately.
- Don't make the issue personal. Don't use emotional phrases like "you have destroyed my trust in the refs". The refs are doing a hard job, it is hard wielding responsibility and if a refcall goes against you there are likely to be many reasons that you just don't know about. That the refs are just acting that way to get at you is by far the least likely answer. If you are angry, back off until you can be calm and civil. If you honestly, truely feel that you have a personality clash and this has clouded the ref's judgement, raise it politely and privately. When you are working your arse off, which the refs invariably are, a complaint which comes across as an attack will make you wonder why you bother.